Some Things I Should Not Change

You know what? Technology and my iPhone have gotten the better of me and I have given up on them.  Oh Reader, you may be shocked and amazed at my pronouncement, but allow me explain my frustration.


I am a mom, wife, school volunteer, church volunteer, writer, blogger and chauffeur (and not necessarily in those orders on most days!) and therefore I have many things that need and must be kept aligned in order for my life to be lived without disaster.  Or chaos.  Or drama.  At least not in unmanageable quantities.

Lately the whole “syncing calendars between devices” has just about driven me over keyboard (hence, the drama and chaos that I hoped to avoid).  In the old days, all my entries were logged in the Outlook calendar on my PC.  I set my reminders and events so that when I checked email — poof!  There were my reminders. Then the iPhone entered my world and I discovered the Cozi app. Genius! My Outlook calendar could sync to the online Cozi calendar, which in turn showed up on my iPhone app.  Hooray! I could also add my to-do list, grocery list and meal plan, all in Cozi from my PC or phone. I could even add calendar reminders from Evite to Outlook and sync it all.  Brilliant!

Confession: I hate typing on my IPhone. Texting is useful (love shortcuts) but typing entries quickly on a calendar app was not an easy or enjoyable process for me. Try making your next appointment at the doctor while whipping out your iPhone, loading the app, scrolling to the appointment date, opening it, typing info on three screens with fumbling fingers, all while the receptionist has efficiently entered the information on her PC and is waiting for you to finish (with that “look”) so that she can move on to the next person. I manage, but later I would always retype and fix entries on the online calendar when on my PC. I am a perfectionist that way.

This spring I got the iPad 3. Joy of joys! I love my iPad. Instead of my 17″ laptop, it is much more cozy to cuddle with an iPad in bed while reading a book through the Kindle app. Or playing Solitaire.

Of course I downloaded the free Cozi app. I could now input items on my iPad instead of the PC, along with the to-do list, grocery list and meal plan (that I had yet to use). Forgotten was the Outlook calendar. Cozi with the iPhone and iPad were my scheduling world.

Drama and chaos ensue. All the birthdays and other yearly events on my PC calendar did not resync to my Cozi calendar at the beginning of this year. Cozi reminders would only text once on my phone. Monster fingers made entries look like a foreign language. Things were forgotten. After a half-hearted attempt to retype all the data on the iCalendar already provided on the iPhone and iPad, I began to feel like a deer in headlights.  Hit. Me. Now.

I must clarify that Cozi is NOT a bad app.  It’s actually quite easy to use, convenient, and I am confident that it works precisely how Type A personalities would like it to work.  For non-Type A people (ahem), a calendar can’t be made difficult to handle. Multitudes of tasks I can handle and delegate; just don’t make it another task to keep it all straight.

Back to today. And the 90s. I am going back to the handy dandy datebook, my friends! Not the fancy Daytimer — goodness knows that I wouldn’t manage those lists and colors and cross referencing. I’m much too phlegmatic for that. THIS is the solution, arriving during Back to School shopping. Right. On.

So far, it has been a great success.  I am taking one month at a time, and it’s all getting in there. Plus it fits nicely in any size purse. Confession: I never used those to-do lists, grocery lists and meal plans anyway.  Post-its are perfect for lists. Who knows — I may just go crazy and use different color ink pens for my entries.
Some things should not be changed. Just sayin’.  

Where Does the Time Go?

The one thing that I love about Blogger is that when you blog, it not only becomes your own diary or journal about life and family happenings, but it can become a great encouragement for yourself and what you have learned on the journey!

I came across this blog entry today (click to read) — and it is hard to believe this was posted 4 years ago!  Now when school starts on August 27th, my youngest will be in 4th grade, and my oldest a sophomore in high school!  Where has the time gone?

Psalm 121 is still an important passage for me as I have had to look continually for God’s help during those times when I have had to teach and coach my kids about friendships, social issues, choices, consequences, the media and so many other things that the world uses to entrap them and discourage them.  We have had some difficult times, and there have been many “teaching moments” that I wish would have happened differently, but God is faithful, and He is still at work in our family and all of us are changing for the better!

Being a mom is a lifelong journey, and thankfully we can get help that we need to prepare our children for their independence!  Don’t give up, Mom — know where your Help comes from!  The Maker of heaven and earth will move heaven and earth to be there for you when you need it and ask for it!


Deuteronomy may not be one of those “go to” books in the Bible’s Old Testament, but did you know that it has a multitude of encouraging nuggets for moms?  Yep, right in with all those laws and commandments that were given to the Israelites by God through Moses.

Jesus knew the importance of this book when He quoted from it as He taught (Matthew 4:4).  He was the Son of God, but He was also a teacher, a rabbi to His followers.  Rabbi was a title of dignity given by the Jews to the masters of the law and distinguished teachers.  And of course, Jesus knew His stuff!

So if Jesus knew this book was important, let’s see what nuggets we can find to incorporate into our own lives today.

In chapter 4, Moses is giving Israel a warning from God about idolatry, but look in verse 29, for the treasure:  “But from there you will search again for the Lord your God.  And if you search for him with all your heart and soul, you will find him.”  (NLT)  When we need God, He is always “findable!”  He doesn’t play hide and seek with us; when we truly look for Him and ask of Him, He is going to be right there for us. (see also Psalm 146:18)

While that’s a good promise right there, it gets better.  Verses 30-31 say this:  “When troubles come and all these awful things happen to you, in future days you will come back to God, your God, and listen obediently to what he says.  God, your God, is above all a compassionate God.  In the end, he will not abandon you, he won’t bring you to ruin, he won’t forget the covenant with your ancestors which he swore to them.”  (MSG)

“When troubles come.”  Oh, and don’t we know that to be true?  We have our good times, but troubles can be around the corner:  your child becomes desperately sick, the hubs gets laid off, the house payment is late, the minivan needs major repair, again.  Each of us has had, and will have, our share of trouble.

“You will come back to God.”  When there are good times, don’t we sometimes have a tendency to let things roll and not be close to God as we should?  Don’t worry.  He knows.  And he knows that you will come looking for Him when things aren’t so good.  He wants you to.  He also wants you to listen to what He has to say to you and follow it so He can help you through the bad times.

“God, your God, is above all a compassionate God.”  He is your God!  You don’t need permission to approach Him.  He is merciful, kind, sympathetic and understanding.  He is ALL heart!  He’s ready to wrap you in a loving hug as you are going through your mess.

“He will not abandon you, he won’t forget …”  He is ever faithful and will never reject or turn away from you no matter what the trouble is or what you may have done!   He is yours and you are His.  He will always be attentive and listen to everything that you have to tell Him during your distress.

My sweet momma friends — don’t feel as though when troubles come that you cannot go to your God for help and a hug.  Even if you haven’t spent much time with Him lately during the good times, He is forgiving, loving and always, always there for you.  All He wants is for you to come to Him.  He is “our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. “ (Psalm 46:1)

Is there something that you need and want to share with Him today?  Don’t wait. Go to Him and ask for His help.  And don’t forget to ask for the hug.  He gives the best hugs ever!